DEAR DEIDRE: MY family has always been my rock but lately I’ve felt left out and all alone.
I’m a 42-year-old single woman and relied on them for support my whole life. I do have friends but I felt closer to my parents and siblings.
They’re the ones I go to when I have a break-up or get some good news.
I particularly think of my older sister, 44, as my best friend.
But recently, she’s been so busy with work and her husband and kids, she never seems to have time to talk to me.
And when I try to arrange to meet, she makes it clear how hard it is to slot me in.
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Also, I don’t want to bother my mum and dad because they’re in their seventies now and have health issues.
I just wish everything could stay the same as it used to be.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Unfortunately, it’s a fact of life that nothing – good or bad – stays the same for ever.
People grow old, relationships change and we have to constantly adapt or we feel left out and unhappy, as you do.
Talk to your sister and see if you can organise a regular slot with her and her family.
Perhaps you could help with the kids one afternoon and cook dinner. That way, you spend quality time with them and she will appreciate the help.
I think counselling would also benefit you. See my support pack How Counselling Can Help.