I’m a mother-in-law, five things you should NEVER do, including turning up unannounced
WHETHER it’s a friend or colleague, everyone has heard about a dreaded and interfering mother-in-law.
But to ensure you don’t become one either now or in the future, one woman has shared the top five things that they should NEVER do from turning up unannounced to asking your child to side with you.
Couples’ counsellor Leslyn Kantner, who can be found on TikTok @thisisleslyn, offered her expertise on the subject matter, as she revealed things that had driven a wedge in between clients in the past.
She began by saying: “Number one – never criticise your child’s choice of a partner, or the way that they engage together as a couple.
“Number two – never ask your child to take your side over their spouses.”
The third no-go was to “enter your adult child’s house without explicit permission or an invitation.”
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While Leslyn said that number four was focused on parenting.
She explained: “Don’t tell them how to parent.
“The only caveat to that would be if they ask a specific question and they’re seeking your advice, of course, share your wisdom.”
Lastly, Leslyn said it was important to give your child their own space and time and never dictate their diary.
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She concluded: “Don’t demand time with them.”
This is particularly important around the holiday season, as Leslyn continued to explain.
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She said: “This idea that your adult child has to spend every Christmas with you when there’s a whole other family of the partners to consider is really just a recipe for resentment and bitterness.
“Of course that we hope that our kids want to spend time together as a family but you need to ask – demanding doesn’t turn out well.”
