DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend can’t last very long in bed, especially if I give him oral sex, and it’s really making him lose confidence.
How can I help him to last longer and to stop worrying about it so much?
The longest he has lasted is about five minutes and the shortest is probably about two and a half minutes.
It actually doesn’t bother me at all, especially as I’ve dated men who last too long and that is a bigger problem for me.
He’s 29 and I’m 27 and we have a good sex life apart from this issue.
He won’t go to see the doctor because he’s too embarrassed.
He only lost his virginity a year before getting together with me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: As your boyfriend is a relative late-comer to having a sex life, he may not have learnt to control himself as yet and this is entirely normal.
To take the pressure off your boyfriend it may be better to focus on you, so that you are really aroused and almost ready to climax when he enters you.
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This will help him relax about his own performance and demonstrate that good sex for a woman is about stimulation of the clitoris and the surrounding area.
I am also sending you my pack called Want To Last Longer? which will help.