New mum issues VERY detailed visiting rules… including a gift card for her, bringing takeaway with them and NO photos
A NEW mum has revealed the incredibly detailed list of rules she’s issued to friends and family ahead of visiting her and the newborn.
Some rules are more understandable than others – such as not visiting if you don’t feel well.
A new mum has detailed her list of rules for visitors after giving birth at Christmas[/caption]However, others – which she explained in a post on Reddit’s Am I the Asshole? forum – have led to criticism from some of her nearest and dearest.
“So I gave birth on Christmas Day before my sons birth and to lessen visits, my husband and I made a list in October and sent it out to everyone,” she began.
“Some rules include – up to date on ALL vaccines – if you feel anyway sick don’t visit.”
Other rules include banning smokers, an hour time limit for all visits, and no wearing of perfume or deodorant before seeing the tot.
Pictures aren’t allowed to be posted on social media and, if it’s your first visit, “you will be expected to give mom (me) a gift card and a gift for baby from out approved list“.
And regardless of how many times you visit, you will be given a “list of a ether food or groceries to bring with you AND a chore for a list of your choosing“.
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The list also bans anyone from visiting more than twice a week.
However, while some people were happy to oblige by the rules, others were not – including the new mum’s sister-in-law.
“She asked to visit last week before she had to go back to school, so we set up a date with link to our gift list than sent her the takeout we’d like including the chores she can choose from,” she continued.
“She immediately texted back saying she’s broke and can she do extra chores instead, Me and my husband talked about it and came to the decision that if we bent the rules for one person everyone would want the same treatment.”
Despite her sister-in-law “begging” to visit, and even offering to clean the whole house, “we simply texted no”.
“She left this morning and we got multiple texts for my in laws belittling us for using our child as a cash grab, my husband simply replied it was our rules and no one deserves special treatment than told his family they were on a time out and blocked them,” she added.
When visiting, guests must bring gifts for the new mum and baby, as well as groceries or takeaway[/caption]“Since then, my family and our friends have told us we were wrong because she is a broke collage student and they would have understood if we looked the other way once.
“We have tried reaching out to his sister but she won’t reply.”
In response to the post on Reddit, the majority of people agreed that the new mum was in the wrong.
“Your rules went from 0 to 60,” one person wrote. “Like smoking and vaccines, yeah.
“But gift cards and chores? The entitlement is strong with this one.”
“Like fair enough for safety but the rest? It’s just money grabbing!” another person agreed.
“They expected a broke college student to bring a gift, gift card, and take out,” a third person commented.
“Have they never heard of a delivery app? Also, her offer to do extra chores was completely reasonable.
“They are using their baby as a cash/chore/gift/food grab.”
“And that, people is how OP (original poster) and co became isolated from everyone in their life,” someone else added.
“And no one will ever visit their house or see their newborn ever.
“Poor baby, growing isolated from family and peers due to their parents being gold diggers and entitled.”
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