I told my fiancé I’d move 300 miles with him – but I’m getting cold feet
DEAR DEIDRE: TO help raise his kids, my fiancé wants me to move 300 miles with him. I love him but I am getting cold feet.
We are both 37 and have been together for eight years.
My fiancé wants me to move 300 miles with him but I am getting cold feet[/caption]He has two boys aged ten and 13. They live at the other end of the country with their mum. She has a busy career and a full-time nanny.
I have met his lads and I do adore them. He’s always wanted them to live with him.
Now his ex has offered to move out so he and I can live in their family home.
He is happily making plans but I have my own home and an elderly dad nearby who I will miss terribly if I move.
There is a lot at stake for me and I am not sure I am as committed to this move as I should be.
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DEIDRE SAYS:
This is your fiancé’s dream but he seems to be assuming you will simply fall in with his plans without properly consulting you.
I know you have met his sons but that’s not the same as living with them.
You and your partner have to talk over issues, such as what the rules will be and who will be responsible for discipline.
Do not sell up until you have had a few trial runs while all together.
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